From Loss to Hope: How I Found Joy Again

“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.” ~Helen Keller The phone call arrived like a silent explosion, shattering the ordinary hum of a Tuesday morning. My uncle was gone, suddenly, unexpectedly. Just a few months later, before the raw edges of that loss could even begin … Read more

Coming Out at 50: Love, Loss, and Living My Truth

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” ~Carl Jung We all had a wild ride during the pandemic, am I right? Mine included falling in love with a woman. At fifty years old. That’s not something I expected. But isn’t that how life goes? One day you’re baking sourdough and … Read more

Vulnerability Is Powerful But Not Always Safe

“Vulnerability is not oversharing. It’s sharing with people who have earned the right to hear our story.” ~Brené Brown Earlier this year, I found myself in a place I never imagined: locked in a psychiatric emergency room, wearing a paper wristband, surrounded by strangers in visible distress. I wasn’t suicidal. I hadn’t harmed anyone. I’d … Read more

Why I Learned to Stay Quiet to Be “Good”

 “Your silence will not protect you.” ~Audre Lorde When I was little, I learned that being “good” meant being quiet. Not just with my voice, but with my needs. My emotions. Even the space I took up. I don’t remember anyone sitting me down and saying, “Don’t speak unless spoken to.” But I felt it—in … Read more

The Questions That Helped Me Reclaim My Life

“You can rewrite the story. You just have to pick up the pen.” ~Unknown I remember the exact moment I started disappearing. It was my wedding day. Just before I walked down the aisle, my mother gently reached for my hand and said, “Your hands are freezing!” She was right. I was ice-cold. At first, … Read more

How I Learned to Treat Myself Like Someone I Love

“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I built my life.” ~J.K. Rowling Most people who know me will say I am incredibly kind, loving, and empathetic. They know me as a safe person that they can share anything with and that I won’t judge. What they may not know is I am incredibly … Read more